Anonymous asked: You don't have to respond to this, I'm sure I'll be fine. But the most imprtant person in my life has told me she is cutting, and has notes, and if anything happens to her I am going to commit. I can't bare the thought of this world without her. I have cried about it everyday since she told me, and I don't know what to do her parents wont help and she can't do anything and I am so scared for both of us. I have started cutting again and I can't help if Im dead but I cant die after her, i justcant
I personally think that it’s really important not to minimize your own suffering- just because you will be fine doesn’t mean that it doesn’t hurt now. It hurts because it matters, and it hurts because you matter, and thusly even though it’s true that you will be fine- I believe that you can get through this- you are perfectly deserving of help and attention and anything that we here at askanerdfighter can do for you.
I’m so sorry that you’re in this position, and I’m so sorry that your friend is in this place. I hope that she realizes just how much you care about her and how important she is to you, and I hope that she finds the strength and the ability to keep living side by side with you.
Even if her parents aren’t supportive, there are still things that you can do and things that she can do- there are other people in your lives who can help with things like this, like school counselors, teachers, coaches, etc. Find someone who you trust and confide what you’ve confided to me, or as much of it as you can, so that you can get her the help that she needs. You don’t have to go through this alone, and neither does she.
I can’t tell you that everything’s going to be okay. I can’t tell you that your friend won’t take her own life- I don’t know her or what’s leading her to this place and I don’t know what’s going on- but I can tell you that you have the opportunity to help her, now. And you need to help yourself, too. Being scared is okay, but it’s not going to help you or her. Do the things that you need to do to keep yourself calm and able to do what you need to- and then use that strength that you have to help your friend do the same thing.
You can’t control her actions or her thoughts, but you can control your own responses to them and to her. You can’t make her not be suicidal, and it’s important not to beat yourself up over her pain. Do what you can for her but try to keep yourself safe, too, and never forget that we are always here if there’s anything we can do to help you in any way.
I wish the best of luck to you and to your friend.